Posted by antigua3 on July 21, 2009, at 13:25:28
In reply to Re: to terminate or keep going » antigua3, posted by deerock on July 21, 2009, at 12:28:04
I was angry at him because of what my father did to me. I wanted to hold someone accountable for all the things that happened to me as a child, but they're all dead, except for my mother and that's a whole different story.
Once I realized I was demanding accountability from my pdoc, I realized he was never going to give it to me because the feelings didn't belong on him. I had to come to a decision that he is just a person with faults of his own, and I can't hold him accountable for what happened to me. I can be angry at him if I think he's done something wrong, and I will verbalize it to him, but now everytime I get angry at him, I can trace it back to my father and it loses its power.
As you can tell, I need to work on being angry at my father, or at least that's what I keep getting told. I can't seem to be angry at him, but I'm working on it.
Tracing the anger back has helped me to let it go. It's really amazing for me.
antigua
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