Posted by Dinah on July 23, 2009, at 9:11:20
In reply to She says it's chemical, posted by Tabitha on July 23, 2009, at 3:11:08
I think that when you are at the hard won truth phase, it doesn't feel particularly negative. Acceptance is not resignation.
I've actually been there at times. It may involve grieving for what you don't have. The parents or childhood you wanted, the career path not chosen, etc. It may involve acknowledging that you'll never be "fixed". But there is no despair or hopelessness or negativity about it. For example, "I might never be fixed. I wish I could be, but it's not going to happen. However with meds and therapy and being careful about my sleep habits, I can work around that. It's a chronic condition but not a hopeless one."
I was about to post to you to see if you were ok, because you really haven't sounded like yourself lately. It didn't sound like acceptance or even grief to me. It sounded more like hopelessness.
Lack of sleep alone can cause profound changes in my mood. Lack of sleep coupled with stress can do me in. It does cause the biochemical stuff in the brain to get out of balance. If meds work, then definitely take them. When you're out of stress, and sleeping better, and feeling better, you'll have a better ability to see what hard truths there may be, and reach acceptance.
Not that I think what you're describing is truth at all. Well, it might be true that you won't get the xxx of your dreams. Dreams are dreams. We always dream high, and that's good. But I don't think it's ever too late to get a good enough social life, an enjoyable and satisfactory love life, and even a reasonably pleasant job. (Though I have no personal evidence of the job experience.)
This is the time to make it through. When things are better it will be a good time to decide if this is really a reasonably pleasant job. If this is what you want of life. And how might it be possible to achieve a life you enjoy, even if it isn't the one of your dreams.
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