Posted by workinprogress on July 26, 2009, at 14:33:49
In reply to Re: Growing up... Dinah, other 'veterans'? » workinprogress, posted by rskontos on July 26, 2009, at 13:43:48
Rsk-
I think that's exactly it. It doesn't feel safe to say I am where I am, because I feel like my T will change, be different, and that I'll "lose" her. Maybe not physically, but the loving mother connection that I have.
I find myself unconsciously "regressing" back to past places of more intense need in order to find that loving mother feeling again. My T always says to ask for what I need. I wonder how to do that, how to ask for that without, as she says, "amping it up" to make it happen. What would I ask for? I guess it would be something like... "I feel small and could use a safe space and some nurturing". Maybe to make it a question I could say "Can I come have a seat in your lap?" And she'd know what I meant.
And yes, Antigua is so right, even though I forget it ever time, growing is so not linear.
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