Posted by AMB on March 18, 2013, at 8:56:52
In reply to Re: Transference with psychiatrist, posted by baseball55 on March 17, 2013, at 20:31:19
> Do you also do therapy with him? If not, it may be hard to work through it with him and he might well refer you. If so, any trained therapist can work with transference and work through it, though I warn you that it can take a long time.
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> I'm surprised your therapist isn't more helpful. If this is troubling you, s/he should help you work through it.
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> Best wishes. Being on the same dating site is a little weird and scary.Thank you. Yes I see my psychiatrist once per month and I do I guess what you'd call supportive therapy with him. So, we have a good rapport- and I would say I see both he AND my therapist (a female social worker) for therapy. I have shown some slightly dependent/clingy behavior with both in the past, but generally only wanting an extra appointment, and it has happened more often with him the pdoc. I'm careful not cross boundaries and he has therefore obliged me with his time. I agree that my female therapist (who I see about as often as I see him) should be more supportive since in other areas she is fabulous. This may be my fault as I go over these feelings more in my own head than I do in session.
And yes, it is VERY scary and weird seeing my psychiatrist on the dating site. Even weirder that we were matched with each other on this site as we are in the same demographic (age range, kids the same age, interests, etc...). There have been some unsaid things between us - he knows I know something, I know he knows something, etc...he'll allude to to dating (when we're talking about my romantic life) but never comes out and says he's talking about himself. Out of respect for boundaries I don't ask.
The last psychiatrist I bonded with I saw from age 11-22 and then she moved. I was dependent on her as well but more in motherly way, so I was devestated once our relationship ended. I've seen others off and on since but never have been consistent. This pscyhiatrist is the first I've connected with and been compliant in treatment with. The thought of not seeing him as my pdoc anymore makes me so anxious that I continue to ignore and obsess over this. If he handles it right then I think I may be able to move past it. I would think these feelings for my pdoc would not be a shock to him, but then you never really know how someone will react to this kind of info. He is very good looking so I'm sure he's had plenty of clients attracted to him, but I'm not sure he's ever had to deal this directly. Is it common for a psychiatrist, and not a therapist, to address this issue? I like seeing a pdoc who will work with me personally as well as a therapist, since I don't think a psychiatrist can truly treat a patient as well if they don't have some sort of connection.
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