Posted by AMB on March 19, 2013, at 22:03:40
In reply to Re: Transference with psychiatrist, posted by baseball55 on March 19, 2013, at 19:18:03
> I think you should tell him you check him on-line. Especially if he's on a dating site he encouraged you to join. That's a little weird. Checking people on-line is almost second nature now. People who do therapy and don't want patients checking them on line shouldn't be on dating sites and facebook. Neither of my therapists have accessible facebook accounts (believe me, I've checked). I asked my DBT therapist what town she lived in (I'm in Boston) and she didn't want to tell me and I said, all I have to
> It's not really cyber-stalking. This has just become the new normal. I google everyone. Therapists need to take this for granted.
>
> I would tell him about this dating site. Maybe you should cancel your membership so you don't keep checking on him
and driving yourself crazy. Transference drives people nuts
as it is. Talk to your DBT therapist about this as well. I found
that talking to my p-doc about how I felt about my p-doc got
kind on solipsistic and it was helpful to have an outside
perspective and advice.I thought it was really weird myself that he joined the site knowing I'd be there and was aware I've looked at it ( the site shows who checks you out) , so I guess I can take that as he is not overly concerned This and most likely only shared what he felt comfortable with me, and everyone else he may know online, with knowing. He has no other public pages online but this is the hardest. I really think that he may be a little dense in the area of transference, even in this context. In session once he even made an analogy of my husband's misinterpretation of my confusion regarding getting back together to his dating life. He said "it's like when you have sex on the third date and then they think it's a relationship, You never said it's a relationship, but they believe what they want to believe". I was kind of like, uh ok....I point but an odd choice I thought, as I know he's dating so it was clearly relating his own experience. Maybe with all this he wont be too taken aback, he's not uptight at all. And thank you- I did take your advice and deleted my account, it is only making me crazier by the moment. If my dbt therapist would work through this with me too it would give me a place to safely talk. They work in the same group practice so I was reluctant, but I guess it's something I don't need to worry about. It overwhelms me to the point now where I can't stop feeling severely depressed to the point of desperation...I just want these feelings to stop... it's so unhealthy. I feel like I need his help, but don't want him to be uncomfortable with or mad at me.
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