Posted by winsome on July 12, 2013, at 15:29:26
In reply to Re: Therapist closing his pratice » winsome, posted by Dinah on July 12, 2013, at 15:07:27
to Dinah, thank you so much for the email! My situation is similar to yours in that he feels I would have great difficulty bonding with another therapist and with good reason. I am also attached with abandonment issues.
Maybe "liking" implies the wrong thing. He did tell me he likes seeing me for therapy and something else to that effect which I am forgetting. I was quiet upset to say the least.
Seeing me on Skype part of the time is not what I want. I am hoping when he is in his new job he will find more opportunity to see me in person. I take it you aren't crazy about Skype either. I am afraid both of us would miss the body language and closeness of physically being in the session.
I say that because he will close in Sept. and he will need to see what his new job demands, etc. I don't want to push him as I know he seems very stressed now. I asked him if he thought this would be ok with him as I didn't want to start, only to have to quit. He said he wouldn't have offered if he wasn't sure. Usually he has a very caring manner but his reply seemed terse. So, I figure to take what I can now and gently push for in person. Do you think this is wise?
I also feel bad for his other patients who, of course, want to keep seeing him, too. He did mention I should keep this plan to myself. My husband says to be happy for the current plan.
I am very happy you have such a "caring" therapist. What a wonderful thing he has told you. That would make me feel very secure.
And, you are correct that is would be wrong to encourage me in an unhealthy way but isn't being attached like being somewhat dependent? I can't imagine not seeing him.
Thanks, again. This is a difficult time.
Winsome
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