Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2013, at 9:12:46
In reply to How I am doing, posted by antigua2013 on July 15, 2013, at 19:04:33
What a wonderful legacy! Not feeling abandoned is something she should feel proud of. And that dream really does show how you've internalized her.
It does make perfect sense that you don't want to let go, in knowing that she died. I try to hold on to people (and dogs) by remembering them regularly, or even by grieving for them. I figure as long as I think of them as they really were, they aren't entirely gone - at least to me. So I think about the placement of freckles on a dog dead over twenty years, and the way her hair lay on her back, and how the unique way she moved. Whenever I eat steak, I think of how Daddy let me have the best parts because I was easily revolted by meat. One of the first things I do when a loved one dies is put together a photo album. I suppose I ought to extend that to include memories as well.
((( antigua )))
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