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Posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
I saw my uni councellor today.
It went really well :-)
I told her about the black holes and about how it is hard for me to figure out what to do about them.
I told her about how I can see that I'm upset because I'm seeing things a certain way, I can see that the issue could be reframed - but sometimes I just can't change my pov.That was interesting.
She said that I could try standing in one place and really thinking out the perspective.
Then moving to a different place (position) and trying to really think through another.
Maybe the change in position will help me get into the spirit of it???
We will see...We talked about how I thought I was caught between accepting the funding situation and changing it. The first seems to invoke despair and the second rage.
She said maybe it would be helpful to think of what I could do with respect to my behaviour rather than the outcome of my behaviour. That way I can take steps to change it without (hopefully) getting too frustrated / angry along the way.
That helps a lot :-)
We talked some more...
About what I want out of therapy with her.
Basically.... Basically she is willing to try working with me properly. For her (from her theorietical perspective) that is about walking alongside me helping me make sense of stuff.
That sounds good to me :-)
But...
Most of the psychologists / p-docs don't seem to know what to do with me...
That is why they referred me onto a specialist.
The specialist said I needed to work with someone who has some experience in treating DID.But...
Why?
Because they are supposed to learn about the sorts of things that have helped other people with a given dx.
Then they teach the person those things.So individual differences are minimised
And the person is seen as 'just like' so and so.
Otherwise - how could they be experts?????But...
I'm sick of that approach anyways.
It doesn't seem to have gotten me so very far
Maybe it is time to try something new.I'm going to contact p-doc about the p-doc waiting list.
For an hospitalisation aid (should things come to that).
I'm going to inform the recomended t that the funding didn't come through (because I don't know if she has been told).
I'm going to tell p-doc I didn't receive a copy of the letter declining funding and get them to check my adress.
I'm going to have a meeting with the funding people to try and understand their decision.I feel so much better.
I think I am ready to give this / her a go.:-)
Posted by Tamar on June 16, 2005, at 3:48:11
In reply to Great Session :-), posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
> I saw my uni councellor today.
> It went really well :-)Yippee! I'm so pleased for you!
> I told her about the black holes and about how it is hard for me to figure out what to do about them.
> I told her about how I can see that I'm upset because I'm seeing things a certain way, I can see that the issue could be reframed - but sometimes I just can't change my pov.
>
> That was interesting.
> She said that I could try standing in one place and really thinking out the perspective.
> Then moving to a different place (position) and trying to really think through another.
> Maybe the change in position will help me get into the spirit of it???
> We will see...I've heard about that technique from someone who specialises in mediation. I actually tried it once and it's hard to do if you're feeling stubborn, but seemed to help a bit.
> We talked about how I thought I was caught between accepting the funding situation and changing it. The first seems to invoke despair and the second rage.
>
> She said maybe it would be helpful to think of what I could do with respect to my behaviour rather than the outcome of my behaviour. That way I can take steps to change it without (hopefully) getting too frustrated / angry along the way.
>
> That helps a lot :-)
>
> We talked some more...
>
> About what I want out of therapy with her.
>
> Basically.... Basically she is willing to try working with me properly. For her (from her theorietical perspective) that is about walking alongside me helping me make sense of stuff.
>
> That sounds good to me :-)
>
> But...
>
> Most of the psychologists / p-docs don't seem to know what to do with me...
> That is why they referred me onto a specialist.
> The specialist said I needed to work with someone who has some experience in treating DID.
>
> But...
>
> Why?
> Because they are supposed to learn about the sorts of things that have helped other people with a given dx.
> Then they teach the person those things.
>
> So individual differences are minimised
> And the person is seen as 'just like' so and so.
> Otherwise - how could they be experts?????I suppose if they really are experts they should be able to recognise both how your experience fits a pattern and also how your experience is unique and individual, and thereby help *you* rather than treating you as a textbook case.
> But...
>
> I'm sick of that approach anyways.
> It doesn't seem to have gotten me so very far
> Maybe it is time to try something new.
>
> I'm going to contact p-doc about the p-doc waiting list.
> For an hospitalisation aid (should things come to that).
> I'm going to inform the recomended t that the funding didn't come through (because I don't know if she has been told).
> I'm going to tell p-doc I didn't receive a copy of the letter declining funding and get them to check my adress.
> I'm going to have a meeting with the funding people to try and understand their decision.It sounds good that you have made all these plans and seem to feel enthusiastic about carrying them out.
> I feel so much better.
> I think I am ready to give this / her a go.
>
> :-)Good for you! Hope it gets you nearer to where you want to go.
Tamar
Posted by happyflower on June 16, 2005, at 4:11:05
In reply to Re: Great Session :-) » alexandra_k, posted by Tamar on June 16, 2005, at 3:48:11
So good to hear! I guess it must be a good week for T's or something. Doesnt anyone else see the patterns with us here? This week was good, last week not so good with us. Very interesting!
Posted by Dinah on June 16, 2005, at 7:54:49
In reply to Great Session :-), posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
I'm really glad it went well, Alexandra.
Posted by 10derHeart on June 16, 2005, at 9:47:25
In reply to Great Session :-), posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
Posted by Daisym on June 16, 2005, at 10:18:18
In reply to Great Session :-), posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
I'm so glad Alex. Perhaps this is exactly what you need -- to let yourself work with this person who obviously cares as long as you can, instead of "just" waiting for everything else. I like your pro-active list. It is very reasonable.
You've been through way too much to try to get help. I'm impressed with your resilency. I'm sure you are tired though. I hope you find peace soon.
Posted by Damos on June 16, 2005, at 16:57:09
In reply to Great Session :-), posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
I'm so very happy for you Alex.
When I have the opportunity to choose people to work with I will invariably choose commitment & desire over skill. I've found quite often that skilled individuals act within their roles, while committed team members do what needs to be done for the team, that is, they improvise. So if she is motivated to help you then that is a huge plus. Together you will find the skills and knowledge you need.
I'm really hoping that this is the start of good things for you, I really am. You deserve them.
Posted by Angela2 on June 16, 2005, at 18:48:47
In reply to Great Session :-), posted by alexandra_k on June 15, 2005, at 23:43:54
Alexandra, I'm glad your session with your counselor went well. I'm glad you are feeling optimistic.
-Angela2
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