Posted by Jakeman on July 6, 2006, at 20:58:18
In reply to I don't know how to be a mother to an older child, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2006, at 8:10:02
> I just don't have good role models. The parenting books seem to concentrate either on little kids or on difficult older kids.
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> This age is all about boundaries and separation, and I just didn't learn all that stuff.
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> I feel so totally inadequate.
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> Does anyone know of any good resources on being a mother to a tween?Dinah,
I think at a certain age in the teens, (especially with boys) the mother loses some of her influence and the dad energy is needed for the kid. From my experience it's something that is innate in the developmental process. Perhaps there's a bit of letting go that happens. I'm not sure if you are a single mom or not. In my community they have a great program where they recruit men to be mentors for teen-age kids. Just some thoughts...
warm regards, Jake
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