Posted by leendee on December 8, 2004, at 17:51:17
In reply to Re: OK, deep breath here., posted by AdaGrace on October 7, 2004, at 10:31:42
AdaGrace
I haven't looked at the relationship board so I don't know your latest news.. but listen...
I've had a very similar experience. I cried every day for more than a year. It's like recovering from an addiction; the grieving and getting past the pain.You don't mention anger. I believe guilt is anger turned towards yourself. How much rage must you have, to have been lied to in such a way that you feel your life has been ruined? Where is your anger towards this man who lied to you?
I guess that it is all being directed towards yourself in the form of guilt, because you still feel you "need" this man and you can't afford to feel the anger. YET.
all this I've said is intellectual and won't make a difference in how you feel necessarily.
The time passing will make you feel better, and choosing NOT to think about him, therapy and possibly medication for your depression and low self esteem, and then more time passing.
You cannot possibly believe it, but you WILL get over it. You must act as if you believe it so that you don't damage your life any more than you have.
Right now your job is to get through the pain a day at a time, and maybe eventually you will feel that if this man was so deceitful, in the end it is best that he is not in your life.
Best wishes to you and in hope for your recovery
leendee
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