Posted by Tabitha on March 1, 2003, at 3:36:57
In reply to My literal mind can't grasp this., posted by Dinah on February 28, 2003, at 22:35:20
here's a literal interpretation for you...
event --> interpretation/meaning/associations--> feelings
sometimes you can change your interpretation of events to get different feeling from same events. but there's still no reason to be ashamed of feelings. after all, when you understand what events really mean to you, your feelings make sense.
for instance, i get a minor social rejection and feel really, really awful. I might feel ashamed that I feel so bad in response to what seems on the surface like a minor event. But what i don't initially realize is, I unconsciously interpreted the rejection as more evidence that I'll always be alone. So it makes sense to feel really awful, there's no reason to be ashamed of that, but I can also challenge my interpretation of the event to not mean so much, so I feel less awful.
poster:Tabitha
thread:204842
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