Posted by fallsfall on October 31, 2003, at 7:28:15
In reply to Anyone else live in their dreams?, posted by Jellibabe on October 31, 2003, at 1:16:58
Two weeks is a long time. I can relate to most of what you have said - wanting to love and be loved, but knowing it isn't allowed - wanting to hug (this was one of the hardest for me) - daydreaming - and wanting the parenting so badly (and it seems like they could give it, except for the boundaries...).
Make sure that he knows how much of your real life this is affecting (tell him how many hours you think about him each day), so that he can help you deal with it. What kind of therapy does he do (cognitive behavioral, psychodynamic, eclectic etc)?
I find that if I write it all down that sometimes the thoughts will stick to the page, so I don't have to keep thinking them. I gave all my journalling to my therapist, so she got an idea of what was really going through my head. It was also suggested that I write imaginary letters FROM her To me - what would she say in response to how I was feeing? I didn't write in that direction too often, but I did "hear" her in my head. How long have you been seeing him? If it has been a while, can you predict what he will say to you in a session? If you can, then you can bring him "with" you wherever you go, and he can advise you - that was comforting to me.
You are certainly not the only one!
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