Posted by Marsel Bennett on November 5, 2003, at 16:46:54
In reply to Anyone else live in their dreams?, posted by Jellibabe on October 31, 2003, at 1:16:58
short and sweet.
i think too many people depend on other people for their happiness. sooner or later any loved one will have to leave, or you leave them...the course of life, things always change.
seems like you have a (time/opportunity fear) problem. what i mean by that, is on the timeline, you are not in the present....you are as you say in the topic, in your dreams..which means the future. the problem with that is you are living 2 lives in parallel, one is your fictional life, the way you would like to have it filling <our time with thoughts promoting this positive fantasy....but your real life is passing by second by second and while you are in a constant state of "tomorrow...(what will happen)" ....the moment you are in, which is the only moment, is gone. but, you are simultaneously aware of this happening which is exactly why you are experiencing the emotion of fear/pain. your actualization never manifests itself....it only gets postponed.
i am going through the same/have been through it.
and it is one of the toughest habits of breaking.
from a programmers perspective the general rule of thumb is..."if you are trying to close a program that is interrupting normal computer operation, but it won't, the only thing left to do is the kill the process." in other words you need a dramatic shock to your system in order to have a real chance of loosing this illusional time/opportunity effect. i suggest sitting down and heavily introverting for a while, do some self-talk...the upside is the self-talk will make its way into your sub-conscious (the child like part of you, controlling you including this habit.both positive and negative self-talk are approapriate. remember that we operate on multiple personalities also....try to figure out what those are for you, and what triggers them to come into the foreground...could be the presence of a person like your therapist...etc.
anyway, enough for now.
poster:Marsel Bennett
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