Posted by Dinah on November 11, 2003, at 16:21:29
In reply to Re: Abrupt Session Ending, posted by DaisyM on November 11, 2003, at 14:18:15
I hate the "why did you ask that" question. It always makes me feel like he's telling me I shouldn't have asked or something, while he always swears that's not what he meant. That it's just important to find out why things are important to me at any given time.
I'm dogged enough to either get my answer or know why not. :) He might have just been diverted and forgot. Remind him next week.
My fear of abandonment somehow extends to hating being dismissed at the end of session. For years and years I kept the time to the minute, and would get up to leave even if we were in the middle of talking about something. I also checked to make sure he wasn't cheating me out of time. As a sign of my increased trust in him, I'll sometimes let him dismiss me at the end of the session instead of dismissing myself first. I doubt he understands the immense significance of that.
One day not too long ago, in the middle of a heated discussion that he might have thought I was trying to escape, he told me with annoyance that it was *his* office and *he* would tell me when the session was over. lol.
But his clock is always visible, and I really don't get the significance of keeping the time a secret. I'd just check my wristwatch.
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