Posted by jane d on November 11, 2003, at 17:21:02
In reply to Abrupt Session Ending, posted by DaisyM on November 10, 2003, at 21:39:30
> He keeps the clocks turned away from me, on purpose. We've talked about that -- he said he doesn't want me worrying about the time. But I don't want to repeat today, and I can't keep looking at my watch, that would feel rude.
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> Suggestions? Should I bring it up? Let it go?Daisy,
I'm glad other people have jumped in on this. I was appalled when I read your post. I can see the clock whenever I choose. It's placed where I don't have to look at it but, when I want to, I can see it by just shifting my eyes without turning my head. And it's big enough to see easily. I use this to time myself and to prepare myself when we're near the end. It never occured to me that a therapist would want to keep you from knowing the time.
My therapist has said that therapy is a collaberative process and I think she both means it and knows how to make it happen. She doesn't act like she needs to be in control all the time. Or perhaps, more accurately, she doesn't feel that giving me control causes her to lose any.
Under the circumstances I don't think looking at your watch is rude. I'd even be tempted to bring my own clock and set it up facing me. (Of course it would probably be more mature to just tell him that you want to see the clock. Period.)
Good luck.
Jane
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