Posted by naiad on December 30, 2003, at 9:41:57
In reply to Re: I'm lost » DaisyM, posted by fallsfall on December 30, 2003, at 8:36:15
Dependency has its plusses and minuses. One of the minuses is that it reinforces my passive tendencies. Once I told my T that when he says "we need to stop now" sometimes I feel like responding "I don't think so!" Just expressing the desire for some bit of control somehow made me feel less dependent. Don't know if this makes sense to you, but it worked for me.
I agree with fallsfall about journaling. I usually need to wait for a day or so after a session before the feelings and thoughts can merge into a coherent reflection about the session. But, boy do I ever worry about my journals being read by someone else. I guard them carefully!
For me, the plus side of dependency is that I am learning to trust my T. If I thought I could do this on my own (being independent) I would be exactly where I have been for most of my life. I need to learn to listen to myself and feel compassion for myself but am convinced that I need someone to help me. For now, I am dependent on him.
Take care
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