Posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 14, 2004, at 14:30:27
In reply to Re: He keeps talking about his girlfriend . . . » Aphrodite, posted by JenStar on November 13, 2004, at 22:00:20
Jen Star hit the nail on the head for me, and explained her theory much better than I ever could, her hypothesis about how we feel about our Ts. I have a great marriage and a wonderful husband, but I still have a crush on my T. I know it's not real and it's due in large part to his caretaking role of me. I always get crushes on caretakers, or authority figures, regardless of sex. So I think jealousy is perfectly normal.
BUt also, this is supposed to be all about YOU. Figures from your T's life should not creep in on a regular basis.
As for me, it would really annoy me if he brought up his girlfriend all the time. It would make me feel somehow that he wasn't fully present and concentrating on me, but that he was preoccupied with other things in his life while on my dime!
Your feelings are totally justified.
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