Posted by Jen Star on July 11, 2005, at 23:55:12
In reply to [trigger?] T back from vacation, rough session :(, posted by GreySkyEyes on July 11, 2005, at 14:46:46
hi GreySkyEyes,
I'm sorry you're hurting and that things are rough right now.Have you watched the "Nanny 911" shows? They have AWESOME methods to change kids' behavior without spanking them, or even yelling too much. I think that if more people were able to learn those techniques, lots of family stress would go away!
Personally, I don't feel that one slap ( a not too hard one) is grounds for reporting, and I don't feel that it's abuse. I mean, I don't advocate hitting on a regular basis, and I don't agree with abusing kids. But one well-placed spank now and then (I think) can help, sometimes, if the kid is truly acting terribly and won't reason.
If YOU feel it was inappropriate, or not given correctly, the best thing to do, in my opinion, would be to focus on controlling your behavior and anger management, to control your stress. If you hit hard, that would be a problem. If you feel that you lash out uncontrollably, that would be a problem. Obviously it's better to deal with kids thru other methods than to hit them. And if you feel that you hit a child without provocation, or felt later that you wished you hadn't, you may need to work on behavior control for yourself.
If your T did report you, to whom would the report go? What would be the repercussions?I hope things work out OK. You're not a bad person.
Take care,
JenStar
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