Posted by GreySkyEyes on July 12, 2005, at 10:50:12
In reply to Wait a minute, posted by daisym on July 11, 2005, at 23:18:34
> Before we judge the poor therapist too harshly, I think we have to remember that she knows a lot more than we do and given the diagnosis (no offense intended, I promise)
None taken.>and the admission of hitting, I think she did need to think about this carefully. Remember that she didn't have to tell her client that she might report
She has warned me in the past that she would have to if things progressed to the point of physical abuse. But I just can't lie to her; I trust her more than anyone and it would hurt me unbearably to lie to her. So I told her, even though I was scared of the possible outcome.>but she was upfront and supportive and called like she said she would. She gets high marks from me.
You'd better believe I was checking my cell phone's voice mail on the hour! It took her about 3 hours to get back to me... and she called me at work rather than leave a message on my cell, which was kind on second thought... though I had to speak in "code". :)> This is a tough situation on both sides. I think both people are remarkable. Trust continually needs to be rebuilt and there is no doubt that will be a >challenge. But my guess is that the relationship will be stronger because of how the therapist has handled it.
I think it will, too. Like I said, I can't lie to her, and I think it's mutual. She's never held anything back from me. At one point (a few months ago), she told me flat-out that she thought I was in danger of destroying my marriage if I didn't work on things such as this. I've actually been doing a lot better, I just had a major relapse. Probably due to her vacation... ugh, I feel so dependent! I never thought there was any transference going on but now I think she might be filling that "mommy" role for me.>I hope I'm not speaking out of turn here. It's just my opinion.
Not at all, and I appreciate your insight Daisy.
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