Posted by 64bowtie on July 14, 2005, at 18:28:18
In reply to Re: » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on July 14, 2005, at 8:00:56
(((Dinah))),
Last things first...
> It's good to see you back, Rod. What have you been up to?
>
<<< It would sound so prosaic for me to say, "I been busy" but I have... I have mountains of notes to pour through to tell the story of why some folks may get well with coaching and practice...
>
> People change because they think what they are gaining is worth more than what they're giving up.
>
<<< I don't pretend to study motives to the degree that I can assign purpose to another person's reason for change... I do notice over and over again that those who detect changes in their lives, later discover how much they had gained and how little it seemed they had really lost... This was surprising to them since they had long procrastinated for fear of losing so much by the changes... Their witness had always been (from their childhood) that change meant loss... Now they had reason to rewrite their childhood rules... I always suggest they discard the notion of rules and replace it with notion of "options", since they are after all now adults that can process "options" accurately...But that's just me....
Rod
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