Posted by kezia on December 12, 2007, at 10:14:16
In reply to Re: This is sort of weird for me to read... » Racer, posted by Maxime on December 8, 2007, at 13:48:01
My therapist and pdoc do, occasionally, bring up my not being in an intimate relationship and ask if I think I will ever be in one again. They don't imply that that will be the answer to all of my problems and they don't bring it up at every visit. They do recognize that I have intimacy and abandonment issues that need to be addressed first. I don't think all therapists think that a woman needs a boyfriend to feel better about herself, but intimate relationships (I am talking emotional, not physical) are therapeutic. That being said, one has to be ready emotionally to pursue this kind of relationship and for a therapist to imply that a female patient should find a boyfriend and then they will feel much better is not only narrow-minded, but chauvanistic as well. I wonder if he asks his male patients the same question repeatedly?
> Hi Racer
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> I know it's an odd question I asked. Everytime I see him (about 8 times now) he tells me I should be in an intimate relationship and that would make me feel better. Uh, I don't think so. I keep telling him that I don't agree and that I am not in the mood for looking for boyfriend, but I don't think he hears me. I almost yelled this week, but I didn't. I don't want to resort to yelling.
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> That about sums it up.
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> Maxime
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