Posted by peddidle on July 19, 2009, at 18:43:46
In reply to Re: I miss my therapist so much it hurts (very long), posted by friesandcoke on July 18, 2009, at 22:09:28
No, there was no money involved, because there are not charges anything at the college's Counseling Services. I know she cares about me-- she said termination is difficult for her too, and I believe that... but, she still gets to be with herself (I know that sounds stupid, but I don't know how else to describe it.) I told her I wasn't going to see anyone else, and she kept telling me things like there are other really good therapists out there, and she's really not that special, etc. I could argue that last point to death, but she is very humble, and human in that way, which is just one of the things I love about her. I agree with what you wrote in your post below-- if I can't see her, then I just don't want to be in therapy at all, no matter how foolish that may seem-- I can't go through the process of telling my life story to another person, building trust with a complete strange, and taking x number of years to form as strong a "therapeutic relationship" as the one I had/have, etc, etc, etc...
> if she is clearly sending you messages that the two of you shouldn't be in touch anymore because it was for lack of a better word, a "business" relationship (there was money involved, right? you were buying her services), then go with one of her referrals and talk this through with them. i know the horrible feeling when your T seems more like a family member than a "business arrangement" but they don't see YOU as family. it is gosh darn painful. and you need some closure, even if you can't get it from her. i don't like the way she is handling this based on your description.
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