Posted by Dinah on May 4, 2011, at 7:37:30
In reply to New Therapy Phase, posted by Daisym on May 3, 2011, at 23:28:51
> I'm ready to be happy. Why is that scary?
Change is scary. Every road taken means a road not taken, and every step forward means a loss of what is left behind. It depends on what you value most whether you find what you gain more valuable than what you lose.
For me, what I've lost is far more precious than what I've gained. But that's me, and I hope it is not so for you.
I think you can feel confident that you will be able to take this at your own pace, and that your therapist will be by your side to support your choice. Even if it's a different sort of support.
Yet even so, I think it's appropriate to feel anxiety, or sadness even.
Is it possible that "So I'm actively working on shutting down those feelings." could be described as putting the feelings into perspective, or not letting them rule your life, rather than shutting them down? Saying that you want to shut them down sounds uncomfortably like life before therapy, to me anyway. Are you, perhaps, divided about whether this is a positive choice? If so, it might be extra wise to acknowledge any negative feelings you might be having, and be diplomatic in assuring yourself that putting aside the past does not mean getting rid of aspects of yourself who may feel unsure of their identity without the focus on the past. Hard earned wisdom, you understand. :) And it may not apply to you.
Congratulations on the new therapy phase!
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