Posted by Lindenblüte on October 3, 2006, at 13:08:15
In reply to Re: 10 things to be proud of myself for » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on October 3, 2006, at 10:49:39
Insofar as chatroom babble obeys some of the same basic principles as message board babble does:
If there is a heated/triggering/sensitive discussion going on, the people involved in it have to be prepared for the intrusion of other people. In fact, they should expect it, and plan accordingly (i.e. don't put up your address where others might find it, even if it's only for a minute or so!) [analagous to posting sensitive info on boards]
And the people who go into a preestablished chat have to expect that the topic may be upsetting/triggering/unpleasant/irrelevant/boring and be prepared to make a graceful exit if necessary. [analagous to being selective about which posts to read]
I don't see how a support website can ever justify excluding any responsible, civil member of the community from reading, or commenting on a discussion, even if it is already in progress. [the analogy here would be if I see a longish thread that is a dialogue between two people, and I interupt it to post something. If it's in the spirit of support and it's civil, I think it would be [extremely] hurtful for someone to imply that my post was irrelevant or intrusive. Acknowledge it/don't acknowledge it- fine, ignore it. I cannot think of an alternative that wouldn't be hurtful.
And, I have learned a valuable lesson- Don't ask a question when I'm not prepared to deal with the answer.
Still learning. every day a little wiser. every yesterday, a little stupider...
-Li
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