Posted by Jost on July 17, 2006, at 21:18:13
In reply to Therapy ending- I'm FEELING/WANTING my Therapist, posted by WittyOne on July 17, 2006, at 9:16:23
Hi, WittyOne.
Have you ever talked to your T about your feelings? as part of the therapy, I mean? or, because you thought he was straight, did you decide not to make that part of the work.
You're in a tough tough position-- Having a T leave (however inadvertantly or through no fault of his own) is extremely difficult, if it's been a deep, important relationship.
But as you said, it's not ethical for him to have a relationship after having seen you. So this would be a huge constraint for him. Plus he may have a relationship, and if you were friends, esp. only seeing one another once in a while, you could be putting so much emotion into someone who isn't available.
I guess your only option is to explore the issue, perhaps somewhat indirectly, either in your session, or possibly through a letter. However you feel comfortable.
Or maybe talking with your new T about it, if you feel you do that-- and if you connect well with him.
I'm sorry that it's so hard; but maybe you're idealizing your T, because he has helped you so much. You could be getting the best of him-- even if that sounds contradictory.
Jost
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