Posted by Dinah on January 15, 2004, at 17:11:04
In reply to Due to the mature nature of this post..., posted by All Done on January 15, 2004, at 14:16:09
> I’m generally not so bold – especially with groups of people that are new to me, so here it goes. I’ve noticed a lot of posts that include comments by the poster that he or she has an aversion to sex. I’ve told my therapist that I basically never want sex and that I’m hoping to improve my sex life with my husband. So, I have two questions for you all:
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> 1. Have you discussed your sexual aversions with your therapist?Yes, it's not a taboo subject. He'd like me to work on it more than I want to work on it.
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> 2. Do you believe therapy can change the way you feel about sex?Yes, we attack it bit by bit. But basically I don't want to change so it's hard to make big strides. Mine goes beyond dislike to pure terror.
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> I have my doubts that therapy can help, so I ask myself why I discuss it at all with him. To me, it would be like me telling him that I don’t like chocolate (Ha! Just an example, of course). How in the world would he be able to help me change that? If I don’t like it, I don’t like it. Know what I mean?
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I think there are things you can do, most likely with a dedicated sex therapist. I just don't want to do them any more than I want to cure my vomit phobia by being surrounded by puking people.It goes soooo far back with me. I could never get more than three dates (except with my husband) because I couldn't stand to be kissed.
poster:Dinah
thread:301258
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