Posted by antigua on January 16, 2004, at 13:28:16
In reply to Re: Due to the mature nature of this post... » All Done, posted by Adia on January 16, 2004, at 13:07:54
Wow, you are working hard. Hang in there. I have been in your situation--actually I AM still in your situation. I have a husband and three kids. When I wanted to have children, that sex was very easy; the rest is hard. As I work through my own abuse issues I find that I recoil from my husband and just don't want to be touched. Especially at certain times--like in the middle of the night--or in certain ways.
I have to keep reminding myself that my husband is NOT my abuser, he hasn't done anything wrong. It is difficult for him as well. He is a good man with needs of his own that I can certainly understand but not relate to. At their core, our most major fights are over this very issue.
I find that the situation has gotten better over time. Therapy has helped me to separate out my feelings for my husband from the abuse. Like I said, I'm not there yet but I'm working on it.
Good luck,
antigua
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