Posted by pegasus on February 3, 2004, at 16:56:38
In reply to OH NO BW thinking! » Penny, posted by Karen_kay on February 3, 2004, at 16:25:35
I know this isn't going to be much help, but I really think the trick is to just take the risk. Yes, it's crushing to have someone that you're really emotionally attached to leave. But usually it's still worth having had the relationship. I know, I know . . . that's no help. And it sucks . . . And what if the pain *isn't* worth it. But I think that's all there is. There isn't any trick you can use to get attached without risk, or to not be crushed if they leave. You just have to decide that it's worth the risk, because that's how you want to live, and that you can survive it if worse comes to worst.
And I'm in no position to talk, currently suffering from losing a therapist to whom I was/am definitely attached. I'm carrying on with the best of them. But I didn't die, and it is getting better. And . . . I'm glad I had the relationship anyway (don't tell him that).
-p
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