Posted by pegasus on February 4, 2004, at 10:35:32
In reply to Being a burden..Karen_kay, posted by antigua on February 4, 2004, at 10:03:02
I can relate to the feeling of being a burden. I have that problem, too. I have a lot of things that I've only discussed with my T, and sometimes that only seems ok when I remember that I pay him to take on that burden. We've had lots of discussions about sharing with other people, but I just can't feel that there is any point to burdening other people who I care about this stuff.
But . . . what my T says to this is that those people who care about me would *want* to help. So, maybe it's more of a burden (even if they don't know it) to not share with them. And, there *is* a point in sharing for me, too. Obviously it's helpful to share, because there I am in therapy, wanting to talk about these things (well . . . maybe I didn't word that correctly :) ). And, I think ideally therapy is supposed to help you develop resources for dealing outside of therapy. In addition to being supportive in itself. So, having supportive friends that you can turn to when bad things come up would be helpful.
I still don't completely buy all of this myself, although I expect that one day I may. I'm sure you've had similar conversations with your own T.
-p
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