Posted by daisym on June 19, 2005, at 0:14:27
In reply to Re: Quotes from the Oprah show » Daisym, posted by annierose on June 18, 2005, at 16:09:39
Thanks for looking up those quotes, Annie. I think what bothered me the most was the "just" parts -- you "just" have to let go, you "just" have to forgive. And Oprah can choose to not associate with her Uncle but what if you have to?
I'm confused too because I read that in order to heal we must get in touch with how angry we are, yet in order to heal, we need to let go of the anger. THIS IS SO HARD.
The hardest part -- the conflict between love and hate. Letting go of the past so that you can have a future. Does this mean you let go of your parents? I know all the intellectual answers, really I do. And if I was talking to anyone else I would be able to sort out the good parts and the bad parts and I would probably tell someone else that they need to form a new, adult-to-adult relationship with her parents because you can't change the past.But the youngest part of me still loves her daddy and still longs for her mommy to notice her pain. All she wants is a safe lap to crawl into. I need to learn how to stop wanting what I can't have. Then maybe I can forgive myself.
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