Posted by Honore on July 14, 2007, at 22:55:55
In reply to Re: Anyone use/prefer laying on couch?, posted by confuzyq on July 14, 2007, at 15:37:34
My T has a couch, which other people use (I asked).
I've used it sometimes-- if only because I"m so tired, I almost couldn't resist lying down. After I did that a few times, I got into the custom of using it at different periods of time. I've done it because it does help with following my own thoughts. There are so many fewer external distractions, both things in the room, and, more importantly, the expression on my T;s face. Even just seeing him can create the pressure of keeping a conversation with someone going.
So it's much easier to tolerate long silences-- when I'm thinking, or, more so, when he is. I don't feel as much need to interrupt the silences after I say something-- if he doesn't respond right away--or anxiety about what's going on in his mind. Somehow I can feel that sometimes he's thinking about what I've said, and if I just keep on talking, I won't get the benefit of whatever he might be connecting to.
It's definitely more conducive to my following my own trains of emotion, and making connections--again because I"m not seeing his reaction, or looking for it. But I've been seeing my T for a long time. I would have felt uncomfortable earlier-- but now it seems natural and not at all strange.
On the other hand, direct emotional and visual contact isn't possible. For some reason, I often feel a sense of isolation or disconnection without being able to see my T, so I generally sit up.
Honore
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