Posted by rskontos on December 10, 2007, at 8:32:56
In reply to Re: evil bad horrible awful disgusting unworthy, posted by antigua3 on December 10, 2007, at 6:35:27
Littleone, I am a mother and it is NOT my daughter's job to tell me the changes in my life are good ones. IN fact she isn't aware of the changes right now.
so YOU ARE NOT RESPONsible to make HER FEEL good that is her responsibility. She is the adult and older than you. Don't let her guilt you into helping her feel good about herself. Tell her you wish her luck and you hope she finds what she is looking for. Tell you love her and move on.
We are each responsible for ourselves. She is responsible for her own good feelings not others. I felt that way about my own mother and still after 20 years after her death she still had an unnatural hold over me. I finally broke it. I see now I felt like you do about her. But it was not good for me and it was wrong of her to keep me tied like that.
So for your own good let go and let you mother do whatever she is going to do and stand on her own. This is too hard on you.
YOu are kind and sweet to want to do this but it is not yours to do. IT is suppose to be the other way around. Your mother needs to remember who is the mom and who is the daughter. The roles needs boundaries and definition.
Take care of yourself first. You are strong enough to do this and owe it to yourself. I feel for you as I have stood where you are standing and it doesn't feel good but you can walk forward.
rsk
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