Posted by Dinah on July 26, 2010, at 8:12:30
In reply to Re: Rewards, posted by Dr. Bob on July 26, 2010, at 3:57:28
> > I don't think I'd particularly want to converse with people who only thank some of the people who care enough to take the trouble to respond to their threads.
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> Do you only converse now with people who thank everyone who responds to their threads?It's not something that often comes up. Most people either thank generally or thank everyone. Thanking taking the form of responding and acknowledging. If someone "thanks" some posters but not others on occasion, I do them the courtesy of assuming it was accidental. Certainly it's all too possible to start answering your thread and get distracted, only to forget to return until you've forgotten what you meant to do. If someone routinely forgets to "thank" my posts while "thanking" others, I certainly note it and recognize I am unhelpful to that poster and think twice about responding to them. If someone routinely does it to others, I note it and consider what it might mean. What I conclude will influence my future posting decisions, yes.
> > he also says that other posters could see how "helpful" you've been to other posters. I suppose Dr. Bob thinks it's ok to think that degrees of value are ok here. I think it's a recipe for disaster.
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> > Dinah
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> I think it's clear that some people are considered helpful by more posters and some by fewer. Differences between members of a community are a fact of life. Why would acknowledging that be a disaster?Lots of things are a fact of life. Lots of things are true. I thought it had long since been decided on Babble that just because something was true, pointing it out was not necessarily either civil or kind.
I am absurdly disappointed that you have changed your mind about that.
And yes, I think changing the civility standards in a community of this size, with a group of regular posters who have to live with each other later would be a disaster to said community.
You aren't easily hurt Dr. Bob. Or at least you don't seem to be. But I think you need to consider that this is not necessarily true of others.
Also, you've been relentlessly positive in your description of this process. Could you tell me how you'd feel if a poster rated everyone else on a thread helpful except you? If your ranking was lower than that of the average poster? Pretend you're one of the less confident and assured people when answering.
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