Posted by All Done on October 17, 2006, at 17:13:01
In reply to Re: Is it all my fault?, posted by happyflower on October 7, 2006, at 15:27:48
> The fact that he clings to you shows he is attached to you, (which is a good thing). My kids are much older (10 and 11) and when their father goes on business trips they miss their dad a lot and they act up when normally they don't.
Does their dad travel a lot? Usually when my husband's out of town, n even gets physically clingier. I can tell a difference in him for sure. It's just that my husband's schedule is probably going to include even more travel as time goes on. I hope we can figure out a way to make it easier.
> So maybe part of the intensity could be your husband is gone more, and your son misses him, and also the new classroom (which is a big thing).
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> I used to have a liceased daycare in my home where I took care of kids and offered preschool. It is true that , when you leave they do tend to settle down and are fine. The thing is that they know it gets to you and even with your DH gone more, I am sure it is affecting you too having to take on more. Well you son probably feels it too, and is using it . ( they are smart little buggers, lol)My T has been gently suggesting this more recently. I've always said my husband and I work well together because we both need our time alone and we're both okay with that. As our son gets older, though, I've noticed it's harder to do the everyday routine without my husband around. And, the more I work on in my own therapy, the more I need someone around for me. I guess I resist admitting how much I want or need him around. Who ever said all this being independent stuff was so important anyway?
> The fact that you are writing about this and talking to your teachers about it, shows me that you are a "good " and consciences mom. You will get through this, in fact I have a feeling that it may not even be so much about you rather than you DH or the new classroom. :-)Thanks, happyflower!
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