Posted by kara lynne on November 9, 2003, at 15:36:27
In reply to Re: Oh man » kara lynne, posted by fallsfall on November 9, 2003, at 9:13:40
Hi fallsfall,
Ok I'm still absorbing what you've written, but I wanted to say in the meantime--I've been thinking about *how* to bring it up. I've done it before, but this seems more dangerous and I'm not sure why. She is human and she does make mistakes. But is she going to be aware of her motivation behind forgetting appts. (a couple of weeks ago but she was in the office and I reminded her), missing one altogether and then zoning out when we do meet? I guess I'm asking--if we can all agree that our therapists are imperfect, how can we rely on them to have an accurate assessment of their blind spots?I don't want to approach her in a way that makes her defensive, but it seems almost impossible to avoid. I know, stick with the 'I's'...I flinched a little when you forgot but I didn't take it personally. When you forgot entirely I tried hard not to take it personally but it was hard (and then do I mention the calls that I felt were such obvious 'oops' calls?). But when we did meet and you were more interested in what was going on in the hallway than what we were talking about I was beyond hurt into humiliated. It makes me think you consider what I have to say unimportant or annoying...blah blah. And then what, she's going to admit it? 'Yes, actually I do think you're boring and stupid'. Well what if she did for a minute? And I picked up something accurate but something that no-one could ever really admit to?
Ok, gonna go absorb more--and write you later.
I really appreciate what you've given me to take into consideration here.
poster:kara lynne
thread:277342
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20031030/msgs/277953.html