Posted by Karen_kay on February 3, 2004, at 14:50:57
In reply to Re: what is DBT? » Karen_kay, posted by Penny on February 3, 2004, at 12:05:00
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not arguing with you at all. I still like you very much :) I used to despise Dr. Phil with his "no nonesense" attitude. But, I think what he does is point things out to people (who BTW, aren't normally in therapy)
I think that with confronting someone with what they've done to you in the past gives a person a sense of empowerment, regardless of what the outcome is. Whether that person has chagned or not. You choose how you allow that person to affect you and by finally confronting them and saying, "Hey! You've done me wrong and I'm telling you about it finally!" it won't necessarily change that person, but it will give you a sense of closure in the situation. It allows you to finally say, "Hey, I'm not going to let that person affect me in any way that I don't want him/her to any longer. I've had my say in the matter and let him/her know how I feel finally." It gives you a chance to say that you won't let that person hurt you you any longer... I know, I know... Easier said than done. Sorry, not trying to spatter off advice or anything.... But, I don't really need to do that, as I don't feel that anyone's wronged me. I know my dad did, but at this point I don't have any feelings on the matter. And it wouldn't really do me any good because he's dead...
Maybe I'm just spattering crap at this point, because I honestly don't hold a grudge. But, imagine how nice it would feel to get it off your chest??? If it's there anyway. Maybe I shouldn't be talking, as I'm no expert. Or worse yet, maybe I have a problem because I don't have any feelings for anything.... Oh, bother, I'm starting to worry about that now.... Cripes!!!!
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