Posted by Skittles on November 27, 2004, at 0:11:06
In reply to Dilemma....PLEASE help, posted by shrinking violet on November 26, 2004, at 19:21:04
SV,
I am so sorry your T said what she did. I would be crushed if mine said that. In my opinion, when you are dealing with difficult issues, you MUST be invested in the relationship before you can ever really face those issues. Problem is, I'm not sure what my T thinks about that and I'm afraid to ask her because I know if I don't get the right answer, I'll have to quit seeing her.
As far as whether it's the therapy itself that is harmful.... I have no definitive answers but only my personal experience to share. I think that when we are in therapy we are continually working through our issues by talking about them (that's how we begin to learn to put them to rest) and that stirs up pain and emotion inside us. When we aren't in therapy, we don't feel that pain because we aren't continually dredging it up. For me, that doesn't mean that I've actually healed from it, but that I'm numbing my emotions again. That's how I've coped all my life and in the long run it isn't that productive.
So maybe that's why you were feeling better - because you weren't talking about all the crud on a regular basis. And now you are stirring up those emotions again. As far as twice weekly appointments, I requested them a few weeks ago and it hasn't been easy. On the one hand I am comforted knowing I will see my T more often, but on the other, my emotions are pretty much raw all the time. I hope over time that will improve though. I decided that I really needed this because my T might get inside a little during a session but I had a whole week to strengthen that wall and I was getting more and more distant. With more sessions, she's better able to take down the wall more quickly than I can build it back up.
I hope this was helpful and not too much about me. It's just that I am all I have to draw from!
Skittles
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