Posted by Racer on December 8, 2007, at 10:49:02
In reply to Re: Yelling at your T? » lovelorn, posted by antigua3 on December 8, 2007, at 10:02:40
Maxie,
To take your question first, no -- but then I've only raised my voice to my husband twice in seven years. And he's the ONLY person I've raised my voice to in decades. (Maybe I should change my posting name to Mouser, since I'm much more mouse-like...)
What's weird, though, is that I don't think I've ever felt like yelling at my T. When she mis-fires, as she did the other day, I try to say things again so she can get them, but mostly I feel as though she's guiding me through a sort of Magic Lantern show, where we watch the flickering shadows together -- she feels more like a tour guide than an adversary. (Which is not to say she doesn't confront me. She does -- just manages mostly to do it in a "with me" rather than "to me" sort of way. If that makes any sense.
Maxie, if you do yell at your T, it will probably turn into grist for the therapy mill -- never a bad thing. And if you don't yell at him, you can ask him if he's trying to provoke you, also grist for the mill.
I'm glad you've got access to a T now, and I hope it's helpful for you.
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