Posted by onceupon on September 5, 2008, at 9:01:31
In reply to Re: Maternal transference (oh so long post) » onceupon, posted by Annierose on September 4, 2008, at 16:04:39
> I imagine your therapist would like to help you with these feelings. They are natural in a close therapeutic relationship. Try not to be hard on yourself.
Thanks :)> Instead of framing your feelings as trying to "get over" think of wanting to work through them with your therapist. Most therapist expect these types of feelings to be brought into the room. Make peace with these feelings. They are full of love.
This brought tears to my eyes. You're right - they are full of love. I keep seeing them as pathological, but maybe they demonstrate my capacity to love too.
> I agree knowing your t is friends with one of your co-workers would be difficult. I'm not sure how I would handle that ... from a co-worker perspective.My coworker doesn't know that I'm seeing my therapist. I've debated telling her (so that I could worry less about her finding out somehow), and think she would actually be fine with it, but I keep coming back to wanting to keep my professional self at work and my therapy self in therapy.
> Becoming a mom brings so many new feelings to the surface. For me it made me more angry with my mother, realizing how un-motherly she was. It's something I continue to struggle with 5 years of therapy later.
Yes. I've experienced both anger and empathy for my mom. She had four young kids at home by herself and I think that alone would have made me crazy. But she was cruel too and I hope to never inflict the same cruelties on my son - either through acts of commission or acts of omission.
I'm curious if it feels like the struggle has shifted for you throughout your time in therapy.
Thanks for your response and support.
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