Posted by onceupon on September 5, 2008, at 9:04:51
In reply to Re: Maternal transference (oh so long post), posted by catlady on September 4, 2008, at 20:44:15
Thanks catlady. My former therapist was more maternal too and used to hug me at the end of each session. The touch started out as painful - I think because I was so hungry for it. But ultimately, it helped me so much in feeling like a legitimate member of the human race. Not sure if that makes sense, but knowing that my therapist wasn't disgusted by me in that way helped me to dial my own self-loathing way back. But then I moved and had to find a new therapist, and here I am.
> I just want you to know I understand exactly what you are going through. I am going through the same thing, and it is hard. My therapist I had before this one was kind of mothering. I used to long for the hugs I got from her. Now I am working with a different therapist who is not so mothering. I find myself missing the mothering I got from the therapist I had before. I feel like crying because I miss it so much. It really sucks that a person didn't get those needs met in childhood because it is hard to meet those needs as an adult. That is one of the things I started to work on with this therapist. I hope this helps knowing that you aren't alone with those feelings. I did bring up my feelings about wanting to be mothered with both of my therapists I had. I know it is hard, but it seemed to help.
It helps enormously to know that I'm not alone with this. I'm glad to hear that you were able to bring up the feelings with both therapists. I'm hoping for the same courage :)
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