Posted by antigua3 on May 21, 2011, at 18:19:48
In reply to Hurting, posted by Annabelle Smith on May 17, 2011, at 23:05:07
I know it hurts.
1. Write him letters. Pour it all out on paper and send it to him before your session. You may not even end up discussing it at your next session, but you will have let him know how you feel. I have never been charged for reading letters, but if you are, it is still to your advantage to have him know what you are thinking. As much as we would like, they can't read our minds.
2. Surrender. I can't remember where you posted this, but this same suggestion was made to me. At first I was really offended, but surrendering doesn't mean I give up, it means I'm willing to trust his way and willing to give it a shot, always reserving the right to change my mind. Giving in and TRUSTING is not easy,but they can't help unless we give them a chance.
3. I am a mother. I would do anything in this world to protect my children from pain and hurt, including invading their privacy, but it would never, ever make me think less of them.
4. Give your mother a chance. My kids think I live through them, but I don't. I have a life of my own that I hope to truly pursue when they are off to college. Do I live through them? I don't think so. While I appreciate their accomplishments and I am very proud of them,it's their life. Maybe your mother is the same way; maybe not. But don't be afraid of going off to live your own life.
best wishes,
antigua
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