Posted by daisym on May 3, 2005, at 0:08:42
In reply to Re: How do you talk about sex? » crushedout, posted by Shortelise on May 2, 2005, at 23:23:09
I'm shocked at the above answers...REALLY? You've haven't talked about it?
Not that it is easy. And I can see how it might not be important to some therapies. I guess if you have the issues I have, it has to be part of the equation. We've talked about orgasm (or lack there of), medication effects on erections, things I hate to do, why sex is so important to men, etc. etc. I think I told my therapist that I needed to talk about sex because the work we were doing was effecting things and he proceeded to gently bring it up the next time, asking questions in such a frank, expectant way (can you reach orgasm if you masterbate?) that I got over being embarrassed pretty quickly. I squirm a little when I think about it afterward, but he always checks in (is this OK to be talking about?) and will stop if I float away.
Hmmm...interesting. I have a much harder time talking about the csa stuff or about verbal fights with my husband. I find those really embarrassing for some reason.
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