Posted by Tamar on May 6, 2005, at 2:19:43
In reply to Re: How do you talk about sex? » Tamar, posted by crushedout on May 4, 2005, at 20:27:17
> I wish we could use concrete examples in this thread. Why am I embarrassed to? I mean, with asterisks, of course. OK, so, for example I would always say "have sex" instead of "f---" but "have sex" sounds sooo boring. But I would feel too weird saying "f---." That's just one example.
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> Thanks to everyone for their posts, which were truly fascinating. I'd love to continue this conversation.Well, I do think it's helpful to have a list of terms you can use comfortably in therapy. I know what you mean about 'have sex' sounding boring. I also tend to think that men (even therapists) are programmed to think that having sex is an act of penetration, whereas when I use the word ‘sex’ I mean *all* the sexual things that people can do. But your therapist is a woman, yes?
I like ‘get it on’ as a compromise between ‘have sex’ and ‘f***’. And I can’t, under any circumstances, say the word m*st*rb*te: it just sounds like something I should confess to a priest – and I’m not even catholic. So I have to resort to ‘touch myself’. Also I can’t say *rg*sm. Even typing it with asterisks makes me feel a bit wobbly (and not in a good way)!
And then there’s the minefield of finding acceptable words for body parts...
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