Posted by Tamar on May 3, 2005, at 4:37:58
In reply to How do you talk about sex?, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2005, at 20:41:04
I’ve talked about sex with my T and I was very embarrassed. I’m not at all embarrassed to talk about sex with my friends, but I felt the problem in therapy was the professional context. Usually when I talk about sex socially I use vulgar language and a rather jokey/flirtatious manner. But I really didn’t want to come across as flirtatious with my T!
I used some vulgar language in therapy, because I really hate the clinical terms. More often I would use euphemisms and hope that he knew what I meant! He never asked for clarification, so I can only hope that he got my point.
He didn’t bat an eyelid at anything I said. And the more often I talked about it, the easier it got. I just got used to it. I came to trust him not to react negatively, because he never reacted negatively. Feeling better about sex was definitely worth the embarrassment.
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