Posted by Dinah on May 6, 2005, at 7:10:53
In reply to Re: How do you talk about sex? » Dinah, posted by Tamar on May 6, 2005, at 3:50:51
> > Chuckle. I don't think I could use slang expressions. I use the very clinical terms.
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> I suppose that keeps it feeling very professional. I find it uncomfortable, though. I don't like professional detachment much. When I was pregnant I used to joke with my husband about the pelvic exams: I said it would be easier if the doctor would pour a couple of glasses of wine and I would light some candles. In the event, of course, romance with my doctor was the last thing on my mind!lol. Yeah, I was so certain I didn't want any male doctors looking down there. But when the time came, it could have been Scott Bakula as long as he was helping that baby move.
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> > I asked my therapist if he was embarassed at the sexual topics we've been covering lately, and he admitted to being a bit embarassed. I asked because it occurred to me, yet even so I was surprised. I have a way of making sex sound decidedly unerotic.
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> How interesting! I never feel embarrassed if other people tell me sexual things - only if I'm the one doing the self-revelation. I wonder why a T would feel embarrassed...He's not sitting in silence. He's asking me questions about what I'm saying, and in some case asking me to elucidate. No revelation of anything to do with himself, but I guess it's still slightly embarassing.
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> > P.S. My slightly embarassed therapist ended up passing on a bit of sexual education that shocked even me. I guess he wanted to pay me back for educating him on feminine anatomy. So I guess talking about being embarassed cured him of it. lol.
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> Care to share? I’m quite intrigued!
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Chuckle. It had to do with a visit we took when I was probably technically underage on the occasion of a friend's bachelorette party to an adult bookstore. And my belief that the guy looking through the hole in the rooms in the back wasn't doing such a good job making sure that people weren't doing anything that might get him in violation of his license, judging from the condition of the cubicles. Because I didn't hardly look at the movie in my horrified (and fascinated, there were tons of scientific issues involved) perusal of the cubicle. And my therapist did some follow up questions (about trauma I guess) that included informing me that that wasn't the security guard looking through a peep hole for purposes of ensuring no one enjoyed the movie too much.Eeeeeeeek. I can't believe we did that. I can't believe how badly it could have come out. Instead of feeling grossed out now, I feel strangely blessed. And I managed to go 43 years without knowing that.
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Hope that's not too much information. :)
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