Posted by Dinah on May 3, 2005, at 7:54:49
In reply to How do you talk about sex?, posted by crushedout on May 2, 2005, at 20:41:04
My therapist acknowledges with a grin that I'm very free in talking about sex. I use clinical terms or mild slang because that's how I talk. He asks appropriate questions. He sometimes uses vulgarities in conversation, but rarely about sex.
I've only got embarassed once that I remember. My last holdout in talking about something with him, and only important because I didn't, was about fantasies. And I only didn't want to tell him because I see him as a conventional sort of guy, not because it bothers me. My husband knows about it. Talking about the fantasy was fine, but when he started talking about acting on the fantasy I could feel my face turning cherry red.
Other than that we've talked about every topic related to sex.
The thing I won't name, that I refer to as the thing on the folded up post it note is sexual. But that's not why I won't use its technical (actually I'm not sure there is a proper technical term for it) or slang expressions. The reason I won't is because it's so terrifying it's likely to literally scare me... Ummmm... Kick up my IBS. How's that?
I don't really think of him as a man. It might be more embarassing if I did but maybe not. I used to have pretty explicit platonic talks with male friends. That's how I learned how things worked on their end. Incidentally, he only rarely tells me how things work on their end, and when he does, it doesn't really tally with what my friends told me. My friends must have been a bunch of romantics. Or he's not.
poster:Dinah
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