Posted by gardenergirl on May 3, 2005, at 1:28:49
In reply to Re: How do you talk about sex?, posted by tom_traubert on May 3, 2005, at 0:28:44
I am always feeling very embarrassed at first, especially if I start getting very specific. I also blush very very easily (darn that pale skin), so I get a bit self-conscious about that. I usually acknowledge my embarrassment to him , which seems to make it easier.
I don't use vulgar words for parts or acts because I don't tend to use them IRL. (I'm such a goody two shoes kind of gal). So I tend to use anatomical language if necessary, but I haven't needed to that much. It's more acts and feelings that I've talked about. And fantasies. Oh lord, I told him my fantasies or at least the general theme to them. I can't believe I did that, and at times when he has brought them up again to make a point (because the theme of them fits with a more global way of acting for me), it's always more than a little embarrassing.
I want to say, "I can't believe you just said that!" And it feels very very personal and intimate. But he is always very respectful and safe about it. He definitely handles it very well and helps me handle my embarrassment, too.
But oh lord, I can't believe I talk about it at times.
gg
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