Posted by torrid on June 19, 2011, at 13:49:44
In reply to Re: Child Abuse/Familydysfunction.. lets chat, posted by Lamdage on June 19, 2011, at 12:50:55
Lamade I relate to you, to discovering that my childhood wasn't typical, I like that you used the word typicle and not normal. I wasn't taught proper social skills or morals, thank god I was born with morals, I have a sadistic sister that was born without them. As an adult I leaned proper mannors, social ques I'm still weak in that area. As a kid I didn't know what love was, abuse and neglect was all there was.
Yes there is choice there. As a child my mother would go in these foaming out the mouth rages but only when only with her children, she was always able to go to work, she was a valued and respected employee for 35 years at her job. Yes she choices then when to loss control and now she choices when to be a marter displaying her guilt, how she is suffering for what she did to her kids, narsisic self pity. It's weakness in her character, she is a selfish self centered person.
My denile in my 20's had a different motivation, I told my self she loved me because I wasn't ready to accept that she didn't. Now I can accept it that she didn't love me, not because I was lacking and unlovable, because of what she lacked in her character. I'm jumping around from what I mentioned in prior posts in this thread hope you can follow.
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