Posted by sigismund on June 17, 2011, at 14:55:55
In reply to Re: Child Abuse/Familydysfunction.. lets chat, posted by Lamdage on June 17, 2011, at 11:14:38
>This is the goal of any abuser, find vulnerable spots and chip away your self esteem, destroy even your functionality through the described mechanism.
I imagine people who do this feel a lot of guilt (about things not being better), and since it is preferable to not have to feel it, that is somehow projected onto the abused person, and it becomes their fault for not being different.
This may be more easily done when there is a lot of enmeshment and terrible boundaries generally.
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