Posted by torrid on June 17, 2011, at 15:48:35
In reply to Re: Child Abuse/Familydysfunction.. lets chat, posted by Lamdage on June 17, 2011, at 12:35:39
I sure don't want to offend you, it's just that angry feeling alters brain chemisty in an unhealthy way. I use to say and feel that my mother was a wound in my side that will not heal until she is dead, and then she will become the memory of a wound in my side that would not heal. Now she is not apart my my thinking and if her name comes up or if I have a reason to communicate with her there is no strong emotions attached to it. I can hang up the phone and it's like she no longer exsists in my head. Now that I buried my grand mother there is no reason for contact with her. At my grandmothers service I noticed the way she is but it triggers nothing, she causes me no pain and the important thing is painful memories are just memories now, I don't relive it anymore. forgive her, she will have to get that from god, but my family is not part of my present life. I can run into my mother or sister at a funeral and I'm completely comfortable, no distressing emotions, no love no hate total indifference. If I get the chance, when she dies I'll donate her body to science, no fairwell of a funneral.
the opposit of love is indifference, love and hate have only a fraction of space between them.
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